Christmas can be a stressful time for many – but when you are caring for someone with dementia there is even more to consider.
Here are some top tips to help your Christmas go smoothly.
Keep to their routine
Christmas is all hustle and bustle, coming and going, however, this is too much for someone with dementia to cope with and too much change will be overwhelming and difficult to adjust to. Try and have meals at the same time as normal in the place that’s most familiar to them, get up and go to bed at the same time and if they have an afternoon sleep, allow for this in your day’s plans.
Slowly put decorations up
Walking into a fully festive room may cause unsettlement as the room they are used to suddenly looks completely different. Putting up the decorations bit by bit over a few days will give them adjustment time.
Keep it low key and simple
One of the enjoyable things about Christmas is having family or friends around. Whilst you don’t have to exclude those plans, be mindful of the extra noise this will involve, maybe create a quiet space for your loved one to retreat to if it gets too much.
Don’t exclude them
It’s very easy just to get on with things when there’s lots to do, but getting your loved one involved in the preparations will not only make them feel included but also create memories for their families. Get them to help hang the decorations on the tree, stir the cake mix or let them help set the table.
Memories
Watch the old Christmas films, listen to the old Christmas songs and look at photos from past Christmas’ – although be aware if your loved one is struggling with looking back as for some this could be upsetting.
Having guests
It may be worth reminding visitors that your loved one may not remember them or their names – they could introduce themselves and their family as they come in. Some people may feel awkward when they are not used to spending time with someone with dementia, plan ahead and talk about what to expect and how to handle the situation. They are still a person, so try and prepare guest to treat your loved one the same as always.
Be prepared to end the festivities early
Some people with dementia find having people around and the full day of socialising too much to handle. If your loved one is struggling with the day, it may need to end earlier than anticipated. Having a quiet house will help them relax and unwind again.
Keep food simple
A huge Christmas feast is overwhelming for some – especially if they eat simply for most of the time. Whilst having all the food on the table is lovely, maybe it will be better to dish the food up and present at the table.
Most importantly do what makes you and your loved one comfortable to enjoy Christmas as best you can.
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